Valentine’s Day Ideas for the Whole You

Different ideas for christians on valentines day

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Valentine’s Day centers around the celebration of love, and that makes it a perfect holiday for those who follow Christ. Why? Because Jesus said the number-one thing we should do is love God and love others as ourselves. In order to experience whole living – body, mind, and spirit – here are some ways you can love God, serve others, and treat yourself this Valentine’s Day.

Spirit: Renew Your Relationship with the Lover of Your Soul

Whether you are married, dating, or single, your first love should be the God who created you. Examine your relationship with God. Has it grown stale? Does worshipping, reading the Bible, and praying feel like things you have to cross off your list? Or are you falling in love with Jesus again and again as you spend time with him? Take time on Valentine’s Day to renew your connection with God. Admire the beauty of his creation, marvel at his handiwork in the cuteness of your kids, thank him for the love he has surrounded you with, or appreciate anew the ways he works in your life. Remind yourself of all the ways God loves you and knows you intimately.

Here are a few of the ways God says you are precious to him:

  • God says in Jeremiah 31:3, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”
  • Zephaniah 3:17 says, “For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.” Yes, the God of the universe is rejoicing over you and singing joyful songs because of you.
  • Finally, God assures us that there is nothing strong enough to separate you from his love for you. Romans 8:38-39 puts it this way: “For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord”.

Mind/Heart: Serve Others and Love Yourself

Valentine’s Day gives you the chance to demonstrate love in tangible ways to those around you. Pay attention to your spouse’s love language and the love languages of your kids. Try to do something special in each one’s love language on Valentine’s Day. Does your husband love acts of service? Wash the car or clean the house as a surprise. Does your teen daughter love gifts? Surprise her with a mini-shopping spree. When we love others in their love language, it helps them deeply feel our love.

Former chaplain of the Baltimore Ravens Pastor Rod hairston

Pastor Rod Hairston.

Pastor Rod Hairston, former chaplain of the Baltimore Ravens and author of Cover Him: Caring for the Needs, Thoughts, and Feelings of the Man You Love, suggests wives take a little extra time this year to show their husband they care. “Maybe your man isn’t a super-romantic.  Maybe he doesn’t share his thoughts, needs, and feelings nearly as much as you’d like him to,” Hairston says. “But in other areas of his life he’s doing the very best he can. He’s endeavoring to follow God, loving you, and fighting for what matters. If you’ve landed such a prize of a man, then Valentine’s Day is a great day to celebrate that guy! Get him that special thing he’s been denying himself. Or make him that special meal he likes. Do it just to let him know that on Valentine’s Day … you celebrate him.”

Whether you are married or single, do a little self-examination on Valentine’s Day too. Are you loving yourself well? Do you take care of yourself, speak kindly to yourself, and admire how beautifully and wonderfully made you are? Put a little love in your own heart on Valentine’s Day by treating yourself to some self-care. Get your nails done. Take a hot bath. Call a friend you have not spoken to in a long time. Splurge on your favorite coffee or dessert. Put your work down and take a nap or read a good book. Look in the mirror and say five encouraging phrases to your reflection, such as “I am a child of the king,” “My face is lovely and my voice is sweet,” and “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”

Loving others is also part of the call on our lives. Surprise a neighbor, a teacher, a friend, or even a complete stranger with an act of kindness on Valentine’s Day. Serving others honors God and helps us feel good about ourselves. Pay for the drive-thru order of the car behind you, take a cute coffee mug with chocolate and a coffee pod or tea bag in it and leave it on your neighbor’s doorstep with an invitation to bring it over and share a conversation, or drop a gift card or a meal at an adoptive or foster family’s home. When you give an unexpected gift of love, you receive so much more in return.

Body: Enjoy Some Outdoor Activities with the Ones You Love

Instead of indulging in heavy meals and sweets for Valentine’s Day (or to work them off!), why not spend time outside doing something fun with your spouse, your children, or other loved ones? If you are single, grab some friends and get them moving.

For a little outdoor romance, take advantage of your locale for an outdoor exploration. Bike a trail, walk a park, hike a mountain, or take a dive in the ocean. Get out of your comfort zone and away from televisions, cell phones, and laptop screens.

“Light the fire pit and have s’mores together,” Hairston says. “If he’s an outdoors type, take him to a new trail and go for a hike.  If you live in a warm climate near the beach, prepare lunch for two and lie in the shore.”

Unique Valentine’s Day Gifts for Healthy Living

Finally, think beyond flowers, chocolate and jewelry for Valentine’s Day gifts. Include a gift that benefits your body. CBD may promote whole, healthy living in many ways. Although CBD products are not yet regulated by the FDA, some scientific studies show CBD may benefit the one you love by reducing inflammation in many areas. Some people who use CBD regularly report improved skin conditions and relief from sleeplessness and stress. Why not include CBD in some of the gifts you give this year?

CBD roll-on topical oils are often combined with other antioxidants and life-giving ingredients like peppermint, lavender, or turmeric. Try CBD as a massage oil to ease those tight shoulders and smooth dry skin. Tuck a CBD tincture in a gift basket with dried fruit, mixed nuts, and other healthy snacks. If chocolate is your love’s desire, try some CBD-infused dark chocolates this year.

By tending to your body, mind, and spirit, you can have a Valentine’s Day that keeps benefitting you and the ones you love all year.

Natalie Gillespie
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Natalie Gillespie is an author, journalist and editor who has published more than 2,000 articles in the last 20 years in magazines and websites such as HomeLife,, and Publishers Weekly. You can reach Natalie with article ideas, personal testimonies, theological thoughts, or just to say “hello” at [email protected]

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